How about some sex toys from Jamaica?

MOST JAMAICANS I know, raise their eye brows whenever the term 'sex toys' is mentioned. Many conjure up sleazy sex joints where dirty, old, sex-starved old men (and young men) go to masturbate in booths that show porn clips.

Others feel that sex toys are for 'maama men' who need to satisfy their women but are sexually deficient and need sex aids to help them out. The association of porn magazines and sex toys (such as artificial vaginas or full-size dolls for lonely men to take home) can be an obnoxious thought to the religiously conservative. Some of the negative reactions to sex toys are also results of the cultural pressure for men to be sexually adept. And, on top of it all, the sale of such items in Jamaica continues to be prohibited by law.

NON-DEMAND SEX

One of the solutions to much of the sexual dysfunction among Jamaicans is deflating the cultural pressure to be sexual heroes. Ignoring the sexual superman myth would reduce the tendency toward sex becoming a stage performance. Sex was created for lovers and love, the active ingredient, is patient and kind.

If the sex act becomes something that gives non-demand sexual pleasure without psychological pressure or guilt and a form of emotional closeness between two adult persons then adding a sex toy to the mix is less intrusive. And such non-demand sexual activity may not require penile penetration at all. To begin to appreciate the purpose of some sex toys is to be open to other forms of sexual gratification as complementary to what you do now. A sex toy such as a vibrator can spice up an otherwise so-so sex life for those who have been in committed relationships for more than five years.

So what are sex toys? A sex toy is any object or mechanical device that is made primarily to facilitate human sexual pleasure. The term does not include contraceptives, condoms or pornography.

A PLUG FOR VIBRATORS

There are many types of sex toys such as dildos (penis-like objects), vibrators, sexual lubricants, rings, and the list goes on. But the most commonly-useful devise is the vibrator. A vibrator is a battery or electrical-powered device that comes in different shapes and sizes; it vibrates with much more intensity than a hand, penis or mouth. Since most women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than thrusting alone, the shape of a vibrator is not as important to women as the erogenous zone it hits. The devise is very useful for women who have difficulty reaching orgasm and for men who want to explore their erogenous zones. Here are some benefits of a good vibrator:

Vibrators can help you learn more about your body and increase your ability to reach orgasms much more easily.

Vibrators are a good way to start communicating with your partner in the bedroom.

Vibrators enhance love making (but they do not replace it).

Vibrators can do things that people cannot do - they can vibrate!

Vibrators are ideal sex toys for safer sex.

Since we all feel very strongly about what we do behind closed doors, introducing an unfamiliar, foreign object such as a vibrator may seem intimidating. You may want instead to introduce more familiar things such as grapes, jellies, honey or wine during the sexual encounter.

Make this year a sexually fulfilling one by stretching your creativity in the bedroom and finding new ways to make your love making more adventurous.