Art of a Great Blow Job, Oral Sex

Giving head, a blow job, fellatio, call it what you like, but there are many wonderful benefits to performing this delicious sex act.

For one, it can provide the one giving it empowerment with infinite possibilities to be creative and provide amazing pleasure. Particularly when performed with enthusiasm it can not only be incredible to the receiver but to the one providing it as well.

Let's first discuss the most important ingredient to giving fantastic fellatio... ATTITUDE.

If you approach this as something that disgusts you, or even a chore then in my opinion, you shouldn't bother doing it.

No matter how many cool tips you know, you will never give really good head with out desire driving it. Sex should be fun and exciting to each partner no matter what you are doing.

Several women I know have told me that they exchange favors with their husband for fellatio. For example, one friend told me that her husband will do the dishes for a week just to get a blow job! I have to say that if that is the kinda of sex life you have... you are missing out on some serious passion.

Don't ever underestimate the power of your perceptions. If you perceive any sex act, including fellatio to be dirty, repulsive, or a chore then it will be.

If you approach it as an opportunity to be the sexual goddess or god in the bedroom where you have total (consensual) control over your partner, with the ability to make them scream out for more until they reach an earth shattering orgasm where they can't stand up for a half an hour due to the sheer mind blowing sexual experience they just had... then I'd say you are going in the best direction for attitude in giving fellatio.

My husband and I always say that desire starts in the mind and honestly I see nothing more important to a good sex life than your attitude and perception toward it. That is why I always suggest communication as it provides a way to talk about what really turns you on. It also gives you the opportunity to work through old belief systems about sex that no longer serve you and end up holding you back sexually.

You don't want to make the mistake of thinking that figuring out what the best techniques are will make you the best lover. Remembering that attitude will make up for any lack of technique is probably the best sex advice you'll ever get!

To those wanting to give incredible fellatio, let me give you a quick example of what I mean about attitude.

Negative Attitude-
Imagine your man lying on the bed. You pull his pants down as though you are trying to just get down to business. You open your mouth and take him in going up and down with no variation, no passion and secretly, you just can't wait for this to be done. You demand that he tell you when he is about to cum so you can jerk your mouth away to prevent from taking any of that nasty semen in your mouth. Then when he does orgasm, you let it go all over him and then leave him there because you have things to do.

Positive Attitude-
Imagine your man lying on the bed. You come in slowly from his ankles smiling at him while keeping eye contact. You teasingly strip the clothes off his entire body looking him over as though you can hardly contain yourself, while licking and rubbing him everywhere you touch him. You slide your body against his, then downward now so your genitals are positioned over his knee while you toy with his inner thigh and pubic area. You run your fingers through his pubic hair and over his balls slowly and you lick the tip of his penis softly while gazing into his eyes showing your desire. Holding him now in your hand you take some warming, flavored lubricant and run it up and down his head and shaft like pouring hot chocolate syrup onto a sundae you are about to devour. Licking his balls lightly and then sucking softly on them you move your hand up and down his now slickened cock and use the other hand to squeeze the base while you grind your genitals against his leg.

Then after a variety of tantalizing techniques you eagerly await his orgasm with an open mouth waiting for him to either shoot inside your mouth or if you do not care for the taste take it deep in the back of your throat so you fuck him with your mouth and let his cum slide down the back of your throat with no aftertaste or let it cum into your hands, or even better... let it moisten your lips, face and chest.

Are you seeing a difference here? Even if you decide to give a "Quickie" blow job, your attitude will allow you to be the best he's ever had. Men, just like women, want to feel desired, so to make him feel like orally pleasuring him is repulsive to you is certainly a "blow" to his ego. Show him that you desire him no matter what sexual activity you do and you will really make it fantastic.