Why Do Men Love Blow Job So Much?

Most men love oral sex performed on them for a few reasons. It of course feels really good, especially when it is done well. It makes them feel desired and of course it lets them know that you really appreciate their penis and them.

I think too often men are made to feel ridiculous for focusing so much attention on their penis whether it be size or it getting attention. I think what women forget is that we focus on things that could be perceived as being ridiculous too. Think about how much most women obsess about how big their butt looks in a certain dress or if the bra with underwire makes their breasts look good so that we can get that compliment when we walk out to go to a party. Underneath it all we all have the same need... to be appreciated.

What must men feel when you barter with them to suck their cock for the dishes to be done? I don't know about you, but it would be a terrible blow to my self esteem to have someone tell me that in order for them to be sexual with me, I would have to do the dishes for the week!
No wonder men and women often think of fellatio as something a bit dirty... we tend to make it that way don't we? Cleaning the dishes is dirty and undesirable and yet it gets compared to the equivalent of fellatio? We also often think of it as derogatory to the giver... yet in reality it is an opportunity to take control! I think when we take negative attitudes toward our sex life then the true beauty of love and sex is terribly belittled.

Even when a person chooses to be with a variety of partners while dating or through open relationships, we can really enjoy sex on a deeper level when we let ourselves BE with people. Being aware of the beauty of sensuality in our partner(s) and ourselves is what makes any sexual moment an amazing experience. Isn't that true of anything in life? How often do we drive to work not even taking a moment to notice the beautiful sun shining down through the clouds and lighting the world up with it's brilliance. How about how often we shove food down our throats without taking the time to really enjoy each morsel of what we are eating?

The same applies to sex... when we are mindful of our partner(s) and our own needs, sensations, and emotions then you will be better able to truly enjoy what life has to offer when it comes to oral sex or any kind of sexual activity!

Art of a Great Blow Job, Oral Sex

Giving head, a blow job, fellatio, call it what you like, but there are many wonderful benefits to performing this delicious sex act.

For one, it can provide the one giving it empowerment with infinite possibilities to be creative and provide amazing pleasure. Particularly when performed with enthusiasm it can not only be incredible to the receiver but to the one providing it as well.

Let's first discuss the most important ingredient to giving fantastic fellatio... ATTITUDE.

If you approach this as something that disgusts you, or even a chore then in my opinion, you shouldn't bother doing it.

No matter how many cool tips you know, you will never give really good head with out desire driving it. Sex should be fun and exciting to each partner no matter what you are doing.

Several women I know have told me that they exchange favors with their husband for fellatio. For example, one friend told me that her husband will do the dishes for a week just to get a blow job! I have to say that if that is the kinda of sex life you have... you are missing out on some serious passion.

Don't ever underestimate the power of your perceptions. If you perceive any sex act, including fellatio to be dirty, repulsive, or a chore then it will be.

If you approach it as an opportunity to be the sexual goddess or god in the bedroom where you have total (consensual) control over your partner, with the ability to make them scream out for more until they reach an earth shattering orgasm where they can't stand up for a half an hour due to the sheer mind blowing sexual experience they just had... then I'd say you are going in the best direction for attitude in giving fellatio.

My husband and I always say that desire starts in the mind and honestly I see nothing more important to a good sex life than your attitude and perception toward it. That is why I always suggest communication as it provides a way to talk about what really turns you on. It also gives you the opportunity to work through old belief systems about sex that no longer serve you and end up holding you back sexually.

You don't want to make the mistake of thinking that figuring out what the best techniques are will make you the best lover. Remembering that attitude will make up for any lack of technique is probably the best sex advice you'll ever get!

To those wanting to give incredible fellatio, let me give you a quick example of what I mean about attitude.

Negative Attitude-
Imagine your man lying on the bed. You pull his pants down as though you are trying to just get down to business. You open your mouth and take him in going up and down with no variation, no passion and secretly, you just can't wait for this to be done. You demand that he tell you when he is about to cum so you can jerk your mouth away to prevent from taking any of that nasty semen in your mouth. Then when he does orgasm, you let it go all over him and then leave him there because you have things to do.

Positive Attitude-
Imagine your man lying on the bed. You come in slowly from his ankles smiling at him while keeping eye contact. You teasingly strip the clothes off his entire body looking him over as though you can hardly contain yourself, while licking and rubbing him everywhere you touch him. You slide your body against his, then downward now so your genitals are positioned over his knee while you toy with his inner thigh and pubic area. You run your fingers through his pubic hair and over his balls slowly and you lick the tip of his penis softly while gazing into his eyes showing your desire. Holding him now in your hand you take some warming, flavored lubricant and run it up and down his head and shaft like pouring hot chocolate syrup onto a sundae you are about to devour. Licking his balls lightly and then sucking softly on them you move your hand up and down his now slickened cock and use the other hand to squeeze the base while you grind your genitals against his leg.

Then after a variety of tantalizing techniques you eagerly await his orgasm with an open mouth waiting for him to either shoot inside your mouth or if you do not care for the taste take it deep in the back of your throat so you fuck him with your mouth and let his cum slide down the back of your throat with no aftertaste or let it cum into your hands, or even better... let it moisten your lips, face and chest.

Are you seeing a difference here? Even if you decide to give a "Quickie" blow job, your attitude will allow you to be the best he's ever had. Men, just like women, want to feel desired, so to make him feel like orally pleasuring him is repulsive to you is certainly a "blow" to his ego. Show him that you desire him no matter what sexual activity you do and you will really make it fantastic.

Superhotsex by Tracey Cox

An unequaled sex guide that's packed with erotic advice for every man and woman who want super sex. A super-hot sex manual for a new generation, Supersex is a stylish, witty, and cutting-edge look at sex in the new millennium. From the internationally best-selling author Tracey Cox, this beautifully illustrated guide highlights the author's unique ability to write about sex in an honest and entertaining way. From the basics of the male and female anatomy to hard-hitting information on sexual techniques, this book covers-and uncovers-it all.

supersex taught you the basics, now superhotsex picks up the pace and takes things a little further, with more advanced techniques, risqué topics, and even sexier pictures to send you into sensory overdrive!

The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure (Ultimate Guides Series)

Violet Blue's Ultimate Guide provides frank and scientifically sound discussion on the subject of fellatio, however, it does not fully live up to its subtitle. This is a beginner guide at best, and Blue devotes too much time to the mechanics of hair and hygiene, health considerations, social considerations, gender issues, and not enough to technique and the experience. She devotes an entire chapter to "Deep Throat," failing to mention that this is largely a fantasy phenomenon and not an end-all ultimate technique. It would be terrible for a novice to read this book and spend hours practicing the deep throat on various objects, thinking that it is the ultimate sex goal.

Blue should be commended for speaking frankly about anal play, role playing, and many of the bonus add-ons fellatio. The chapters are interspersed with original erotic tales from Alison Tyler, which waver between hitting the mark and detracting from the flow of the book.

One of my chief complaints about Blue's work is that she speaks openly and freely about technique and the contact between body parts, and then at the end of discussion, tosses off that all of this should be done with condoms, finger caps, and dental dams. She throws in safe sex as an afterthought, not as an integral part of her text. She preaches about safe sex, but she does not incorporate it into her discussions of technique.

Pick this book up along with some other guides, such as the outstanding Guide to Getting It On, and compare the discussions. Violet Blue's book is one of the better guides, but don't read it without picking up some of the other 5-star sex guides available.